Ok, here is a problem if anyone as some good advice please tell me. I will not be disappointed. I have been seeing this man for the past 4 yrs, we have a daughter together. But to this day he still has not told his family of our daughter, no worries he is divorced, i saw the papers and we have been to his house. Anyways, his daughter from his last marraige has no idea of the fact that she is a big sister, and that I am more than just a friend. I have told him over and over again what the problem is, that I feel like I'm a dirty little secret and that he does not care about me or our daughter. I have tried to be patient and kind of his fears of what his family, friends and daughter will think of him. But damn it, its been 4 yrs and still nothing, I don't know what we are. I love him and care about him. But he says that we are friends and that he needs to deal with this on his terms. I get it that he went thru a real bad dirvoce and now he might loss custdoy of his daughter becasue is x makes the big bucks and does not want to pay him child support.

But we have a kid together, why does she have high prioty like his other daughter. Why can't I go and see him play hockey. Why do I have to leave early in the moring when his daughter is there, or come over when she is asleep. I just don't get it. He swears to me that he is not ashamed of me, and that i'm not a dirty little secret. But i just can't deal with it anymore. I am tried of being loyal to him, and letting him get away with it.

When I tell him that i can't deal with it and that i'm leaving but we can be friends. He tells me that I'm being a witch about things and that its not all his fault. And there I go , running back to him and running back to the life we have. I know I should just leave. But I love him so much. I have tried to date other guys, but when i'm on these dates i feel like i'm cheating on him.

What should I do?. How do I leave someone that I love so much?