Sooo I know we've all been there. You date someone for however long, and when you guys break up you either keep things cordial, stay friends, or act like the other person doesnt exist. Regardless of the position you take, some of you may find yourself running into this person in the most random places and times. Well.... how about running into the "New Girl?" Well, that was the case for a freind of mine not too long ago. She was pretty cordial with her ex even though she probably could have cared less, BUT one day she was out with a few of her friends when the "New Girl" showed up and tried to ACTUALLY spark conversation!!!!!!!! lol Now, i think it really depends on the people involved because something like this could go over very smoothly or end up super SUPER ugly, but in my friends case I think it went over pretty well. Im still a little unclear as to why the "new girl" thought it would be a good idea to talk to my friend, but regardless my friend was very nice to her and entertained her in conversation. She said she just told herself, he's my ex for a reason and I've moved on. She told me that they ended up having a great conversation and the "new girl" was really nice! The only advice I have on this one, is to the new girl....I think she shouldve thought more about why she felt the need to talk to the ex girlfriend but I also think she should be VERY VERY happy the ex was nice to her, because I've seen some nasty endings to stuff like this. On another note Kudos to my friend, cause that must have taken alot to keep cool AND on top it all be nice and accepting of her ex boyfriends new relationship! You go girl! :D And take my advice, its not worth it, so if this ever happens to you and you still care about your ex simply take a very deep breathe and realize the most important things in life is yourself and your family....
A really good friend of mine is kinda going through something that I guess you could call a "quarter life crisis".... I see it as more of an end of the year evaluation of some sort but regardless she sees herself in a rut. She recently got promoted, has a great family, and is really moving in the right direction. But sometimes, like alot of us, she questiones if shes in the place she wants to be in right now. I know alot of you may agree, that sometimes we think twice about relationships, our major in school, our group of friends, or like in this case where we see ourselves in the future.... My best advice to her was to seriously sit down and take into account everything shes gone through this year, and where she wants to be next year. If we never address what we want, we'll never be able to grasp it. Often times we focus so much on what we DONT want, that it clouds and overpowers our real goals... Makes sense? Its kinda like the law of attraction.... I read about that in this book called "The Secret" which was pretty much a common sense book BUT it really touched upon putting your dreams and goals into focus and then through postive thinking, motivation and the right moves seeing those goals come true..... So if your going through something similar, maybe you should sit down and evaluate what your doing, where you want to be, and what might be stopping you from getting there. We should never fear where our hearts want to guide us..... Its time to stop overthinking and start making moves! Get em!
I moved out here with someone I thought I was in love in with, but I am second guessing it all. I cant understand how someone can change so fast. We intended to do this together, but now it seems like we are falling farther apart. I myself am questioning my commitment to her, but to what degree is enough enough? What should I do?
Response:
Alright well first off one of the most difficult things a couple goes through happens when there is a change. Couples usually become very comfortable with their daily routine so when there is change a couples momentum can often be thrown off. It almost seems as if the hardest thing to accomplish while going through change, like moving to a new place, is doing the growing and changing thing TOGETHER. If you love her and want to work things out then communication is the best way to go. You never know if her distance or attitude change may just be attributed to the new scenery or the new life you two just started. She may just need comfort and reassurance. Try talking to her before assuming things. Once you do that you guys can work together at making things right through supporting each other, understanding each other and adapting to everything together......
Hey guys! Im starting this new thing called "Kalyna's Corner" which is pretty similar to Dear Abby :) In case youre unfamiliar with Dear Abby, its an advice column where people write in and ask a number questions dealing with everything from relationship issues, friend trouble, school problems, general questions and much more. "Kalyna's Corner" will be a place where anyone can just vent, ask personal questions, and hopefully feel better about their issues and concerns...... All you have to do is send me a message telling me about your problems and I will do my best to give you the best advice possible. Everyone will be annonmous so feel free to touch on whatever youd like!!!! :) The point is to not only help you personally but others who are going through the same thing and are looking for answers:) Sound good? :) Thanks guys!
