Today's Topic: Setting Boundaries after a Break up

Well breaking up is definitely hard to do.  Whether it's someone who broke up with you or you that dumped them... it's always good to set some boundaries or rules after a break up.  Unless if you want this break up to be another relationship in itself by continuing to hook up, you're just going to have to break up all over again. 

So there's obviously two ways to look at this, if he/she broke up with you then you totally have to respect their decision and realize that they don't want to be with you.  I know that sounds super harsh, but begging for them to take you back is not the way to go.  Give them space and try to do things that keep you busy.  Avoid seeing them as much as possible and stay cool when you do interact with them.  Don't make them feel sorry for you by acting super sad, it's best to act as if you are okay and your life is so fabulous without them.

If you were the one to break their heart then make sure you stick to it.  There's nothing worse then playing with someone's emotions.  Don't go back and forth with them and call them whenever you feel lonely.  Take responsibility for your actions and follow through with what you decided.  Chances are they might do anything to win you back so if you are messing with their mind, that's just totally not cool. 

So overall, I say it's best to keep your distance.  Breaking up changes a relationship whether or not you get back together it will never be the same.  If you decide to stay friends then stay friends.  If you decided to still hook up every now and then, I might consider that playing with fire.  Just my opinion, we all know you will end up doing whatever you want in the end no matter what anyone tells you.

Xoxo,

Sisanie