Today's Topic: Impotent Men

So today I am going to share an email with you that was sent to me over the weekend.  I don't know what great advice I can give on this matter . . . I've never dealt with a situation like this, but maybe your comments can help too.

Dear Sisanie,

What do you do after you have been dating someone for two months and was waiting to have sex. But then found out that he is impotent.  Please help me, I don't know what to do, he even said he has medicine but it doesn't seem to be working. 

Sincerely,

Confused

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Dear Confused,

Well this is definitely one of the most unique emails I have ever received.  It seems like a very frustrating situation and I guess it all comes down to how much you really care about his guy.  I could just imagine that after waiting two months you'd be excited to take your relationship to the next level only to be disappointed when you find this out about your man.

Maybe in his mind, he was just hoping...just wishing, that something would work for him. Should he have told you about this?  Yes I think so, but I bet he was thinking it would be different with you because he really loves you or cares about you.

I'm sorry you have to deal with a situation like this because it's difficult. You don't want to discontinue seeing a man your in love with/or have strong feelings for because he can't have sex...yet at the same time, you know you may need that physical attention in the future, and it's something he can't provide.

You just have to sit down and realize what you really need. Is being just in love enough for you? Some people can continue relationships without physical contact, others can't. I know for me personally it would be a struggle. You just have to look at the situation and see if the love you two have for one another is something that is far more important than sex alone.

Good luck,

Sisanie