Today's Topic: Are you the "loved one" or "lover"

Usually in a relationship one person gives more than they receive.  I feel like I have been both the loved one and the lover.  I've had a few serious relationships and I can think of one where I was totally the lover.  I cared so much about this guy and he really didn't treat me that well at all.  I was in denial about his love for me because I was so in love with being in love with him.  Does that make sense? It's like something deep down inside of me was telling me that this relationship was not good and I convinced myself that he loved me. I was lying to myself! It wasn't fun when he finally dumped me and I was super sad for like 6 months.

I believe that I have been the loved one as well in a different relationship.  I did however show the love back to him, I just knew deep down inside as well that I didn't really love him as much as he loved me.  I was hoping that staying with him longer would make me realize that I did love him more... or that the love would grow but that didn't happen.

I think when it comes to true love you just know from the very beginning! It's not something that you have to convince yourself about.  Or sacrifice not being loved enough because they don't love you back the same way.  I still haven't been able to find that kind of love.  A relationship needs to be balanced.  One can't love more than the other.  I think it comes down to patience and not settling.  Be true to yourself and realize when you are in a bad relationship.  If they don't love you the same way, you have to have enough guts to move on.

Xoxo,

Sisanie

"To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides"

-David Viscott